Saturday, May 1

Phases Behind Us, Part 1

I mentioned in G's 12month update that we were soon saying bye-bye to the passy. I honestly didn't think it would be that big of a deal, since he only used it in his crib for sleeping and it would usually fall out of his mouth as soon as he fell asleep. I had read that you should try to kick it by 12 months, because after that is when they develop stronger attachments to things. So one night I decided to put him down without it. You would have thought I put him to bed without food. He was so sad! So.........I caved. I couldn't handle how sad it made him. But I definitely should have followed the advice because throughout his 13th month I watched him seemingly grow more attached to it every day. In fact, he started finding it after he woke up and sticking it back in, which he had never done before! I tried cutting the tip off, like some had told me, but he was not going to fall for that trick!
So, at the end of 13 months, I knew it had to be done. Brace for it. Be strong. It's for his good!! [Mental picture - 3 yr.old with pacifier!]
Put him to bed without it, and yes, sad, sad tears for probably 30 minutes. Ugh. But he did go to sleep. The next nap, just a few minutes of fussing, next nap, right to sleep. WHEW. So, one night of 30 minutes of crying (which to a momma feels like f.o.r.e.v.e.r), but then we were done. Oh Happy Day!
I don't love the cry it out method. Thankfully, Graham has only had to do it a couple of times in his life. But I have learned, that when you know you are doing the absolute best for your baby, that is good and right and ok to do. Doesn't God do that with us? Allow us to go through hardships sometimes so we can enjoy the greater pleasures on the other side?

So, Mr Bink, it's been a good run. I couldn't have done it without you. You soothed our fussing baby many times. You kept meltdowns in check. You allowed for several peaceful airplane trips. And road trips. You helped us sleep-train to the 12-hour sleep at 14 weeks. You soothed our buddy right to sleep every time without crying. Thanks for all that. We can only hope that all our of children will love you as much as we do. :)

9 comments:

Tim, Kristen & Megan said...

Good for Graham to give up his paci! We are going to make Megan lose hers after our in-laws leave this next week. We were also going to make her give it up at 12 months, but look at her 18 months and she still has it:( She only uses it for naps and night time, but she also has gotten more attached to it since 12 months...so we are probably in it for the long haul once we take it from her. She is such a great sleeper so I am hoping that it just takes a couple of days and that she keeps up her good sleeping habits.

Suzanne said...

good for you! I think the passy is SO hard to give up. I waited until Gavin was 18 months to take his away and he literally cried for three days. I have video of him throwing fits.

kellyH said...

I am sure it will be ok, Kristen! Since she's already i a good sleep pattern, I think that goes a long way! good luck!

The Lesters said...

So glad it went so easily. I now wish I had used pacis with the twins. Ian never took a paci and he never sucked his thumb/fingers either. But I resisted giving the twins pacis and now they are finger/thumb suckers and that is going to be so much harder to break.

taralynn819 said...

This is encouraging, as we have a paci lover ourselves! But like Graham, he only uses it till he's really sleepy and then pops it out. Hope we can have a similar success in a few months!

juliechall said...

Well....glad to hear it. As others said, our little Brynnie is a paci baby too at sleep time. I heard from my pediatrician to try to break it by 12 months and have been thinking about maybe trying to start working on it at nap times and then after that bed time. We'll have to see....I only have two months to go!

Seth & Bethany Heijermans said...

Cute story! I am proud of you--I'm sure that was hard! I appreciate how you compared this to God putting us through hardships to experience greater pleasures. Miss you guys!

kellyH said...

hey Julie - I thought about doing it at naps times first, but then I figured it might be confusing to offer it sometimes and not others. Others encouraged me to do it it cold turkey and I am really glad I did. But I guess I would ask other moms as well and get their take on it. I am sure you will know what will work best for Brynne!

juliechall said...

Good point....I guess I just love my sleep so much :) I always try the easy one first...we'll have to see...